living as a victim

Are you a victim or a warrior?

The victim lives in the mentality that the world is happening TO them. It's out of their control. They feel like they're being taken advantage of. They complain. They can't seem to catch a break. They feel like the world is out to get them. And it's always someone else's fault - their boss, their employee, their spouse, their friend.

It's easy to be the victim. It can be our natural tendency. Society teaches us that it's a dog eat dog world. That things are tough. That life is just cruel. That bad things happen to good people. That money doesn't grow on trees. That it's normal to not enjoy our jobs.

When life is happening TO us, it's not our responsibility. We aren't to blame for anything that happens. When we're let go from a job, it's out of our control. When we're in a car accident on our way to an important meeting, it's not our fault. When a family member makes comments about how we shouldn't do what we want to do, my internal dialogue says "poor me."

And that's the victim's good intention. That we be protected from responsibility. That we're always right and they're wrong. It's just our bad luck, there's nothing we can do about it. Because when it's out of our control, we don't have to change or do something new.

And maybe we only feel like victims when it comes to the job we hate. Or when it comes to managing tough employees. Or when we deal with our parents.

But when we live in this constant victim state, it makes us cranky. We build up this negativity that bleeds into all areas of our life. Soon we feel powerless.

But we have the power to upgrade. We can notice the victim and stop him in his tracks. We can choose to be a warrior instead. Tune in tomorrow to learn more.